Four Seasons Residence Club Aviara

Hello Everyone, I hope you all had a lovely weekend! I wanted to say a quick hello and share our favorite memories from our recent stay at Four Seasons Residence Club Aviara. The whole week was such a dream and I don’t even know where to begin. I want to start by reiterating that I am very well aware that I won’t have this life without all of you and for that, I am incredibly grateful. 

      With that said, let’s dive right in. I have been to many countries and stayed in many hotels, but nothing has ever compared to this. The location is wonderful, so close to the beach. The setting is perfect for any occasion including a wedding. The restaurant has fabulous food, the staff is extremely friendly. The rooms are wonderful.

MANAGEMENT: I remember my favorite speaker Simon Sinek, using Four Seasons management in one of his speeches years ago. He told a story about where he asked a barista he met at the Four Seasons in Las Vegas what he loved about his job. Without batting an eye, the guy said that he loved his job at the Four Seasons. On the other hand, the barista continued, he just counts the hours at another hotel where he also served up lattes. What was different? At the first place, the leadership asked how he was doing and what he needed. At the second? They watched to see when he would screw up. This Speech has shaped how I manage my team since then. Let me tell you, Simon Sinek did not exaggerate. The Management was impeccable. From Jessica who gave us the biggest warm welcome to Brandon, director of Outlets who sat with us during dinner and gave us a back story on how the Four Seasons started. Almost every single employee I spoke with has been there for more than a decade and you can tell they all love genuinely loved their jobs which made us feel right at home.

HOTEL OVERVIEW: The location is great. It’s located in a very secluded yet in the middle of San Diego. You can drop a pin and hear it. From the moment you enter the beautiful lobby, you know you are staying at a very special hotel. The pool area and views are amazing! 

OUR VILLA:
Our awesome host Jennifer took us to our villa upon arrival. Prices can differ depending on the size of your villa or what time of the year you go. Upon entering our villa, I think I said “oh wow, this is amazing” a million times. The room was spotless and very well kept. Everything was in fantastic working order. Our villa had a balcony with a spectacular lake view. Our room was very nice and spacious room with all luxury amenities one could wish for. We had everything in our villa from a beautiful tub to washer and dryer and a huge kitchen. 

FOOD:  We were treated to breakfast every morning in our room. You can either stay in your room and call in room service or go down to the fabulous Eat Seasons restaurant. This restaurant is not only beautiful to be in but the wait staff is wonderful – knowledgeable and friendly. For dinner, we were treated to a 5-course meal by the fabulous chef James himself.

The restaurant is filled with natural light and modern beach-town charm. I loved that the tables are not on top of each other so you can have a normal conversation. The food was excellent and they had an array of great wine choices…very upscale for an intimate or special evening celebration and oh, a lovely bar with live jazz. 

AMENITIES:  We visited their award-winning Driftwood spa and got the best massage with hot stones and radiance facial as well. Elizabeth listened to my skin needs and catered my facial to me specifically. My skin still looks and feels fabulous days later! The relaxation room is where you can hang out before or after your session. The next day we visited the gym and signed up for a pilates class. I won’t be discussing this any further as I am still sore. lol. 

Thank you for a wonderful stay. What an amazing experience! Will definitely be coming back here!

Photography by @Visualsbychristina

My first time in Tulum, Mexico

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen! 

I am so happy to write this post because this Tulum trip was everything I needed and more. I have never experienced a trip more cathartic trip. Tulum had been on my bucket list for quite some time so this was a no-brainer .and I decided to treat my whole team to a week in Tulum. Truly, It is one of the most beautiful places on planet earth. Here are the highlights of our trip! Hope this helps you plan your Tulum experience.

TOURISM: We Visited the Cenotes about 20 minutes from our hotel. The Mayans actually believed the Cenotes were portals to the underworld. The Cenotes were where they make sacrifices to the gods. This was the most serene, peaceful, spiritual almost eerie feeling at the Cenotes. This place is one of those places you have to visit to believe. Perhaps, one of the clearest blue water I’ve ever seen. The water looks like something out of this world and with a beam of light that shoots through the darkness into the cave.  Take goggles in with you if you have them, there are great formations under the water and you need to pay to rent goggles once you’re inside. I’ll have to say it’s the closest thing to heaven I have ever experienced. We rented bicycles and although I fell many times, I kept getting back up. We rode our bicycles everywhere.

 

FOOD: 

When we got hungry and nothing is more tropical than an Acai bowl. We stopped by Mama Matcha Tulum and made some new friends. We also had street tacos about every other hour because where else would you get street tacos better than Mexico? I was a huge fan of Anthony Bourdain’s show “Parts Unknown”. One of my favorite thing he said was that when you travel, you should eat street food. “On the streets in Mexico, vendors roll a taco with their hands, and hand it to you with their hands… there is an intimate transfer going on; they are telling you that this recipe is a reflection of what my parents taught me, my grandparents, my region, my language, culture, and history. This is what I do, what I am good at; this is who I am and what I am and I would like to share it with you. Street food is simply the best and healthiest because it’s made out of love. You can pay in either Mexican pesos or U.S. dollars, but the exchange rate works in your favor if you pay in pesos. 

HOTEL: 

On to the Hotel we stayed at for the first few nights we were in Tulum. We stayed at the fabulous Live Tulum hotel. It was very modern and minimalistic yet with traditional vibes. The best thing about this hotel is that it is right in the middle of Downtown Tulum. Our room was clean, tidy and looked fab. We could have gotten our whole Tulum content at our hotel. Right outside our rooms is a 40-foot long pool which means we don’t even have to leave our room to lay by the pool. A breakfast buffet is complimentary and served in an open-air dining room with a thatched roof. Other amenities include an outdoor pool and loaner bikes. We chose his hotel because we didn’t want to pay a high price to stay on the beach as we were  planning on exploring most of the times

WEATHER: SUNSCREEN! SUNSCREEN! SUNSCREEN! I felt like showering every second of every minute. IT WAS HUMID! Tulum tends to have warm weather all year round, with highs staying well within the 70s and 80s. Even in October, the temperature didn’t fall below 80 degrees, so any time you travel there you will find tropical, sunny weather. Tulum’s rainiest months are June, September, and October. The three-month stretch from October to December is the best time to visit when the hurricane season is over and the weather is warm but not oppressively hot.

 SAFETY: Of course, always practice safety. However, the town itself feels very hippie and there’s lots of backpackers, there’s also always police driving up and down the main street. I felt totally comfortable wandering around on my own early mornings when everyone else were still sleeping. I don’t think you have anything to worry about at all.

I hope you enjoy this post. I’ll see you on the next post from Tulum, Mexico! Adios mi amigos and stay fabulous. 

Photography by @Visualsbychristina

Perfect Match: Crop Top & Culottes Pants

I am always so excited to style anything from GraceWillow The Label. (Not an Ad). They are truly one of my favorite brands.In the past year, all of a sudden, crop tops and high-waisted, slightly loose-fitting trousers are my new favorite thing to wear and somewhat my unofficial uniform of the moment. Perhaps, I have gotten a bit lazy. What I love about styling something like this is that it’s a little sexy, yet still very polished and elegant. I love this combination because it works together absolutely perfectly!

The top is so fierce yet so dramatic like someone you are familiar with (ME) and the blush culottes just goes perfectly. What I love about culottes is that they can easily look like skirts and when it gets warm in the evenings they are roomy enough for you to feel the breeze. It’s a great alternative for any kind of professional setting. The key to looking enlogating in culottes is to find a pair that hit a few inches  above the ankle and that are streamlined on the sides, and make sure the pockets are well fitted, so as to not an add an extra bulk on the hips. Culottes have been around for a while and this is one style that isn’t going anwhere. You can’t go wrong with a pair of heels or some ankle boots are all stylish choices as long as it hits right on the hem. 

What about you guys, what are you really into at the moment? Sorry, this wasn’t a long post. I am working on the Tulum post for you all. Have a fabulous evening. 

Photography by @Visualsbychristina

BLUSHING FOR FALL

Bonjour my darlings! The brisk weather in Los Angeles these last few days has me so excited for the arrival of cooler weather and the opportunity to wear all my favorite Fall outerwear pieces. It actually rained in L.A! Fall is one of my favorite seasons because I get to play with colors and Layering! Also, I can gain a few pounds and hide it perfectly. 

My first big purchase for the season is always outerwear! I find coats and jackets to be the foundation of my fall wardrobe and they have the ability to so easily complete an entire look. 

Wearing pink for spring and summer makes sense but the conundrum is how do we transition this fabulous color to fall? It’s easy, JUST DO IT! 

What’s worked for me in transitioning this color to fall is by wearing is styling it monochromatically. When in doubt, keep it simple. A monochromatic outfit will always look sophisticated and flows effortlessly. 

To give the outfit a pop of color, I tied it together with a red bag. Pink is a direct derivative of red so the colors go so well together especially if one is used as an accent piece. 

I’ve linked a shopping link of this outfit below. Can’t wait for the for the cooler season ahead! Have a beautiful rest of your week. Stay Fabulous darlings! Xx

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FALL 2018 READING LIST

Hi Everyone!  Autumn is one of my favorite seasons because it means cozying up in the house, drinking hot chocolate and reading books. I’ve always been a voracious reader and books have served as a security blanket for me since early childhood. So, every year I aim to read 100 books, which I’ve thus far never been successful in but I do aim… I’ve read some terrific books this year and so I decided to pull together a quick list of five that you might enjoy this fall. I tend to buy them when amazon prime has a big sale (not an ad). I tend to pick mostly self-help books but every now again I dive into the world of fiction. When I read, I annotate and analyze every sentence and sometimes, I go back and re-read over and over. Without further ado, here are my 5 favorites of the year thus far: 

  1. THE DAILY STOIC by Ryan Holiday. This is a book I read as a daily guidance. I found out about it through a podcast and got hooked right away. I read the Daily Stoic every morning and taking some notes on it. I then try to think about the passage during the day. Until this book, I’ve never used this sort of daily reader book before. I really like the daily reader aspect of it. Having the book by my bedside helps me to focus on a morning routine and the ritual of meditating on a powerful and brief excerpt has become part of my morning routine. Every morning I write that day’s quote in my journal and meditate on it for a few minutes. Each evening, in the same journal, I write a bit about how successful (or not) I was in incorporating the quote into my day. Any book based on philosophy and meditation would always be a favorite of mine. 
  2. East of Eden by John Steinbeck. Oh, this book! I saw it on a shelf at a spa and decided to drive straight to Barnes and Nobles to pick it up. For the first time in my life, I find myself putting a book down after certain passages and literally just staring into space to decipher and digest what I just read. It is certainly not a book you can rush through. Albeit, fictional, I find myself drawing parallels between the book and the current state of my life, and some of the passages have certainly changed the way I look at my life and the decisions I have made in the past and will make in the future. To be honest, I am only 1/3 through this book but what I’ve gathered from it so far is that despite the emphasis continuously placed upon one’s fate in determining one’s character and life, the book shows that it is ultimately possible to break free of these forces and create your own destiny. Favorite quote so far, “ And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” Such a powerful read and a great insight into human nature.
  3. 3. Lean In: Women, Work, and The Will to Lead.  Sheryl Sandberg is the COO of Facebook and Instagram and of the most powerful woman in the world. I admire her grace, style and work ethic very much and I have followed her career closely for over a decade. Favorite quote in this book is “So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? And then go do it”. This book encourages women to take charge in workplaces. As an entrepreneur myself, this was a MUST READ for me. I blazed through it in one read. The book was mainly concerned with informing women of the imbalances of females in power– and the current-day injustices that are still occurring in the workplace. This book is aimed at women who need answers from a mentor figure: how to work your way to the top, how to work with other people as a lady in charge (and with people above you, male or female), and how to manage the home life when things might not quite be 50/50. Such a helpful read.
  4. 4. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.  I picked this book up at the airport and finished it on my flight. This is not a self-help book, it’s more of a slap me in the face “get your crap together” book. It’s a book that’ll make you question everything you believe in. The tone and writing might be a little aggressive and brash for some but for me, this is such a preference when I read self-help books. I’ve been very open with my social anxiety. It has been a lifelong battle and something I know I’ll have to manage for the rest of my life. This book helped so much with my anxiety and helped me realize where a lot of it was coming from. This book is pretty much saying we should all reprioritize our f*cks and give them ONLY to what you give a f*ck about.
  5. The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo. There are just some books that simply shapes your identity and this book is it. The Alchemist is my favorite book of all time and single-handedly helped in developing my mind. This book tackled all of the aspects of my life that needed saving: my faith, my purpose, my emotional and mental health, and even my love life. I’ve read this book at least five times already and this may sound a bit corny, but it’s like reading a new book every time. I wish there were a way to force the whole world to read this book and I promise the world would be a much more peaceful place. This book was the catalyst for my move to Los Angeles. It spoke to me in the most profound way no other book could probably ever. Paulo Coehlo really drove in the point for all of to always follow what our heart tells us. This book is beautiful, poetic and life-changing. Make Your Own Destiny and be the architect of your own dreams. “To Realize One’s Destiny Is A Person’s Only Obligation”

Here you have it. So what’s on your fall reading list? Leave a comment for me on Instagram and let me know! I can’t wait to check out your recommendations!

“Books are meant to renew hope, restore courage, and refill your desire to conquer life.” — unknown

A candid Interview with my Mother sponsored by Adidas.

Hello Everyone! 

In my next campaign with adidas, I was told to write about someone who inspires me. What I love about my Adidas family is the creative freedom they give me. Serendipity at its finest, my Mom happens to be visiting me for 6 weeks (Yes, 6 weeks!). Like most Mother/Daughter relationships we’ve had our ups and downs but we are now closer than ever. My mother is the strongest person I know. She endured a horrendous childhood but still ended up being one the best, most nurturing mothers on the planet with incredible life accomplishments. I have and always say she is the bar! She’s my best friend and I’m very lucky to have her. She’s a reminder to us all that one can overcome almost any adversity life may throw at you. I figured this campaign would be cathartic for both of us. 

  1. What’s the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?

          I wish I were more nurturing and use more attentive listening skills. I worked a lot as I was the main provider of our household. I did the best I could but looking back, I wish my parenting skills were a bit more tender. 

2. Why did you choose to be with my father?

He is very compassionate and tolerant. He was relentless in his pursuit of me and I made him work for it. Ladies, let them work for it. 

3. In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you? You are very agile. Also, I believe we have the same exact work ethic. You are the hardest working person I know. (me, chiming in.. No, you are). I am incredibly proud of everything you’ve accomplished on your own. 

Me: I think when you cut me off, you forgot the greatest and most important gift you ever gave me and that simply was work ethic. You can’t buy it, you either have it or you don’t. 

4. Which one of us kids did you like the best?

I love all my children equally. I believe at the core of good parenting is treating your children with equality. 

5. Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?

 I’ve skimmed over it in the past but your pregnancy was very difficult. You are truly a miracle baby. I’ve always thought that was why you are such a fighter. I think you have 9 lives. We almost lost you so many times when you were younger. 

6. Do you think it’s easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?

Now because I have zero control over my children. No matter how much advice I give, you have the liberty to live your life as you please and that I assume is a very difficult thing for any mother. 

7. Is there anything you regret not having asked your parents?

         My Mother died at a very young age. I never had the time or luxury to ask her anything. If I could ask her anything, I’ll ask her “how much do you love me”? I wish she were here to see all my accomplishments. 

8. What’s the best thing I can do for you right now?

Get married and give me grandchildren.

9. Is there anything that you wish had been different between us―or that you would still like to change?

    I always prayed and wished we were closer and I am so happy we are working on that every single day. 

10. What drives you? What motivates you? Why do you work so hard?

Legacy. I’ve always wanted my name to live on by touching people’s lives. I just opened my very own hospital in Nigeria for Sickle Cell patients and planned parenthood. Leaving something to you all was always my dream and I am happy I can say “I did it”. 

Thank you so much for reading and to adidas for sponsoring this lovely chat with my Mother. You can purchase the jumpsuit HERE and also the hat HERE. Have a beautiful day everyone and stays fabulous. 

MY 5TH AVENUE MOMENT WITH ELIZABETH ARDEN

Elizabeth Arden is one of my favorite brands. It is such a classic brand. I remember my Mother using all their products when I was growing up. So, when they asked to collaborate with me on their 5th avenue perfume, I was elated. 

I have always said I was a perfume collector. I have a perfume menagerie. About 80 bottles and counting actually. Perfume, for me, is a part of my wardrobe just like my shoes or top. I say it is a secret accessory. 

5th Avenue is a world-famous street; it is a symbol of wealth, the imagination that has turned into reality. This is a fragrance for a woman who possesses a sense of style, a woman who is intelligent, successful, elegant, and easily walks between luxurious showcases, feeling good in her own skin. The top notes are lilac, linden blossom, dewy magnolia, mandarin, and bergamot. The heart notes are Bulgarian pink violet, ylang-ylang, jasmine, Indian tuberose, peach, carnation, and nutmeg. The base is composed of amber, Tibetan musk, sandalwood, iris, and vanilla. The fragrance was created by Ann Gotlieb in 1996. I’ve always loved the branding of this perfume. I can see why it’s such a best seller. This perfume is accurately named, it is not a misnomer at all. 

The smell transforms you to Carrie from Sex and the city or even Audrey Hepburn in breakfast at Tiffanys. Every time I wear it, I imagine carrying a load of shopping bags, a huge sunglasses, and 6-inch heels. Oh wait, I do that already. This perfume smells like luxury and elegance.

It normally retails for $54.00 dollars. It’s worth it at any price. 5th Avenue is both sophisticated and feminine. It contains a bouquet of floral notes, including lilac and lily-of-the-valley, which I both love. It’s fresh and sweet and light enough to wear to church or to the office, but it works for nighttime too. The bottle is very chic and elegant. The juice has moderate sillage and longevity. I reach for this when I want to seem both understated and feminine. Simply Fabulous.

 

SPECSANDBLAZERS X ADIDAS (SUMMER 2018)

adidas“>This post is sponsored by Adidas. All thoughts and opinions are my own. Hello Everyone! To say, I am excited to be part of the Adidas family would be an understatement. Considering I was teased in High school getting called adidas because my name is Nike is beyond rewarding. I am incredibly honored. With that said I’ll be bringing you a blog post every few months showing you how I style my Adidas from shoes to jackets with my feminine style. I recently spent 24hours in New York with Instagram. I always look for the most comfortable shoes to get around. I have a love/hate relationship with NY! New York is a jungle. It is a city filled with people who truly enjoy work, enjoy the motivations of drive and competition, and enjoy being on the cutting edge. The energy there is so contagious and even if you are a relaxed person by nature, you feel the need to chase something. With that said, what’s the best way to chase taxis and dreams but in my new adidas edge lux sneakers? What I love about this shoe is how comfortable yet stylish it is. Fits like a sock and feels like you’re walking on clouds! Cute too for the gym or for daily wear. I wore it to Facebook headquarters, was able to wrap it and fit into my purse perfectly for my meeting. Featuring a women’s-specific fit, these sneakers are designed specifically to work with your unique structure. Lace-up the Women’s adidas Edge Luxe Running Shoes and feel the difference that only BOUNCE cushioning and gender-specific design can make.If you haven’t hopped on the sneaker trend yet, what are you waiting for? There’s little reason to resist, especially when you can pick this adidas edge lux one up for under 100 dollars. Don’t underestimate the power of a simple white sneaker—use it to make bold pieces more wearable.So, freshen up your outfit with these white kicks and run around town this summer looking fabulous. 

The Importance Of Face Oils

I’ve had many people tell me they cant use face oils because they break out after using them. This is simply not true. Oils are great for ALL skin types. However, if you use the wrong ones then they can betray you, brutally. Adding facial oils to my skincare routine has completely changed the way my skin looks. My skin looks more radiant, more moisturize and just overall healthy. 

Facial oils come before moisturizer and primer. I know the oilier your skin, the more afraid we are about adding more oils. This is a myth. Having oily skin usually means that your skin is actually dehydrated, so you want to add more oils. Most people think that adding oils to their skin is what causes acne. This is simply not true. Not exfoliating on a regular is what causes acne. When you don’t exfoliate, your hair follicle becomes clogged and therefore bacteria grows and then inadvertently becomes pimples. 

I know it seems counter-intuitive but you have to trust me on this one.  I have oily skin and I only use face oils to moisturize. My top recommendations are hemp seed oil is very lightweight does not clog pores, Marula oil my new fave, moringa oil, and red raspberry seed oil which is a natural sunscreen. Face oils also help prevent wrinkles. As we age our body produces less and fewer oils and it’s our job to replace it. The moisture barrier breaks down and skin dries up. Dehydration is what causes wrinkles. 

With all that said, this is one of the skincare products that you really have to think of as an investment. Usually, the more expensive the oil, the fewer fillers they have and that’s what you want. Using some cheaper oils or store bought olive oil can clog pores because they have filler ingredients and aren’t always designed to be used on the face. You want to go for more plant-based oils. The best way to apply face oils for maximum beauty benefit is to pump one or two drops onto the palm of your hand, rub your hands together to warm up the oil, then press your hands onto your face, massaging slightly. This way, the skin absorbs the product.

Remember, your skin gets oily because of an overproduction of oil. So if you put oil on your skin that mimics sebum the naturally occurring oil, your skin will stop producing as much. So, for all of you with oily skin, use more oils as long as you exfoliate regularly. Stay Fabulous! 

4 Ways to Get Through Tough Times

Hello everyone! Another day, another article. God, it has been a rough and tough week and as things are starting to settle down, In the spirit that I’ve always been very open with you thus far, I decided that I needed to open up about this, so whoever is going through a tough time could find someone they could relate to. Earlier this week, riding high from scoring my Adidas deal which I’m still pinching myself over. I finally was able to shoot with my dream photographer. It was an amazing shoot. I walked out with complete euphoria. Well, I looked to my left and right and realized my car was gone. At first, I was sure it was simply towed. Perhaps, I parked in the wrong place. After calling every number you could, we deduced my car was stolen. I was gutted. I thought, “of course, this is the story of my life”. Anytime and I mean anytime things seem to be going seamlessly, the other shoe drops and I feel like I take 10 steps back. Life eh? I was at the police station the next day getting through all the pertinent paperwork when I realized Alexandre had broken his leg and won’t be walking for a long while. Of course, my first thought was to run to his bedside but in the midst of that, I also realized I’ll have to take care of him, I’ll have to abandon my work to take care of someone else. God, I sat on the corner of the street and cried for about 2 hours. In the days since this God-awful day, I’ve certainly been able to get myself to a better headspace. I truly appreciate everyone who reached out and let me vent. My #SBfamily, you are truly amazing. So, here are 4 ways I was able to get to where I am at now. 

1. Acknowledge and talk it out – I have been through so much in my life but my God, my strength is my greatest gift. It’s totally okay to be afraid, to be paralyzed by trauma that whatever you do, don’t let it overwhelm you. As tough as my exterior is, I am a firm believer in crying. Oooh, I love a good cry, honey! I allowed myself few days to be angry at the universe. To be angry at Alexandre, to be angry at God. I yelled I screamed, I threw a plethora of temper tantrums. I thought of all our summer plans that are now canceled. I yelled, “I don’t want to be strong anymore”. I allowed myself to be selfish. I shared every step with my followers on Instagram and my God, your support was so uplifting. 

2. Self-care! Self-Care! Self-Care! – If you need to have a few bad days, that’s totally okay. What’s not okay is staying in those bad days. We have a choice and will and that’s what makes human beings so exceptional. Ask yourself, “okay, what is the lesson here?” Personally, I believe every time something this earth-shattering happens to me, it’s the universe telling me to take a break. I hate slowing down and it always takes something to literally slap me in the face to get me to rest. You all know my motto is “I can sleep when I die”. Take off your victim hat and put on your self-love fabulous one. Days after all the bad news, I enrolled in yoga classes. Now, I HATE yoga but my god, I needed something to distract me from all of this. Any form of exercise is so important during a hard time. We all know that when you physically move, your physiology changes and that releases endorphins that changes your thinking. Getting your heart rate up, going outside every single day helps create a momentum. 

3. Take Action. Mindset is half of the battle. – Set a goal every day! What I did was set one thing I had to accomplish a day. It could be as simple as walking to the library to read for an hour or even “call Mom”. The worst thing you could do is curl up and throw in the towel. Setting goals helps you push through the difficult times because you have something to look forward to. The worst thing you can do is sit in that darkness. Finding out my insurance won’t cover me getting a new car was painful. So, I wrote down the Pros and Cons of getting a new car immediately. The Cons far outweighed the pros. Simply because, I’ll be traveling a lot and buying a car that is just going to sit in my garage seemed foolish. You have to get a momentum going. Always think “what’s next?” and then after that “What’s next”?. Ok, No car. No car for at least a year. No traveling partner for the summer. That’s reality. So, what’s next? Learn how to navigate my way around town with an Uber, start saving up for my Porsche 911 and buy a single ticket for myself to New Orleans. I googled “how to take care of a man with a broken leg”. lol. I prepared myself for him to push and pull at me (and he has done exactly that). I prepared myself for him to be depressed about this. He is a workaholic, so this is literally like him dying. I knew this would be a test of a lifetime and realities of relationship and partnership. 

4. Gratitude – Remember “This too shall pass”. I actually have that tatted on me. Keep Perspective. It’s so easy to lash out at people who are trying to help you and feel sorry for yourself. However, having a heart of gratitude is so important. People have always thought my positivity is “fake” but my heart of gratitude has gotten me through the roughest times in my life. I have a plethora of good things going on in my life that this is just a bump in the road. Remember the times life was better and count your blessings no matter how hard it is because there would be more good times in the future. No matter what I am going through, I know it sounds flippant but I always say “there are children literally starving”, so in the grand scheme of things my situation isn’t that bad. Remember, you learn more on your bad days than your good ones. So, that in itself is a blessing. 

I hope this helps! Remember, don’t let the distractions distract you. I’ve always said, the only way you can stop me directly in my tracks is to attack my work. As long as I have my work, everything else seems trivial. It’s easy to see catastrophe everywhere you look and to think there is no way out of the mess you are currently in but trust me it’s going to get better. I promise you “This too shall pass”. The nature of life is dual which means nothing is permanent. Press through the desire to give up and be determined to not give up. Life is hard and God puts his toughest soldiers through the hardest times. Life doesn’t happen to us, it happens for us. Find the positive in every situation and fight your way back into the light one inch at a time. I believe in you and I hope you always believe in yourself. Hope your hearts can breathe. Love you all and stay fabulous. 

Niké